My step-dad, always left me a way out when I was young and has never given me unasked for advise but rather, if I had a question, he would offer 3 courses of direction and their probable outcomes.
When I was 12, he explained to me about detractors and that has helped greatly. Now as an adult, detractors to me, are just silly. I can continue onward on my pursuit of bliss without being set back.
Also when I was 12, he said to me that I can believe things and that I can think things but what do I actually know. He asked me not to answer but instead to consider. I realized that I actually knew nothing. From there, from that moment, I have paid attention.